What is the first step in living the life you desire?
One of the biggest struggles I have had is finally coming out and saying that I don’t believe as I once believed, or rather what I have been taught to believe. When I say struggle I really mean, fear. The type of fear that keeps you living two lives… the life you dream about and never really think you can have and the life you actually have that everyone sees.
To be truthful what keeps is from living the life we desire is a matter of choice. Either we choose to live the life we desire or we choose to live the life we desire the least in an effort to avoid being shamed from being who we are at our core. And that is a life I had live for way too long. So I choose to live the life that is an expression of who I am at my core.
What keeps us from living the life we desire? Often it is the thought of what our social circle may think – after all rejection is one of the links in the great chain of conformity and compliance.
I have an affinity towards spirituality, knowledge, and wisdom. I love to learn about crystals, essential oils, meditation, out of body experiences, chakra’s, eating higher spectrum foods, various religions and spiritual practices. However, expressing your love for these things can place a negative label on you in certain Christian circles. So for many years I have kept my studies and my love for these things to myself.
Before the heart attack I lived a life that was similar to this where I was completely and utterly miserable – living the life I “should” live rather than living a life I truly desired to live. I realized that I was doing the same thing by not coming out and being absolutely true to who I am and the things I love. Now my wife and my mom knew about my studies, as I shared a lot of my findings and insights with them. And they would often urge me to share what I had learned along the way.
However, there was something that just kept me from sharing this with the world. Besides the crippling fear of being called a warlock, a shaman, a new ager, and all other sorts of negatively charged labels in Christian circles, I didn’t want my children to suffer the wrath of being made fun of or rejected by their friends because their parents would paint me, and/or even my wife, as being something evil with the intent of stealing their soul and teaching their children dark magic or what not – which is the furthest thing from the truth.
But at the same time as a parent I need to practice what I preach to my children. Which is often a message of follow your heart. Be an expressive extension of who you are at your core and what you love. Anything shy of that will cause pain, misery, and a great deal of suffering. Create an environment with your friends and those you love were they can be who they are, as they are, because there is not enough of that going around. Always take action from a place of love.
So yeah… I love wisdom – ancient wisdom, eastern wisdom, new age wisdom. I love learning about crystals, and meditation, and essential oils, higher spectrum foods, out of body experiences, astral projection, dream interpretation, neuroscience, psychology, sociology, yoga, falun dafa, ti chi, along a myriad of different things that help an individual bring peace and balance into their life. All for one purpose and one purpose alone – learning to live in the essence of who we are at our core. So we can be an expressive extension of who we are, have been, and will always be.
I write this fully understanding that there will be those that read this and will completely miss the message. I can only say this… what you look for in life you will find. That is the way the mind works. If you are looking for evidence that there is evil in this life and that you should show how much better you are than someone else because your way of believing is better than someone else. You will find it. To the same degree… if you are looking for peace and balance in your life and how to be an expressive extension of who you are. You will find it as well.
Regardless of who reads this and what their intent is in this life I can only say this. This physical life is too short to not live in the raw power of who we are. It is too short to not live an expressive extension of who we are and what brings joy and happiness to our lives. It is too short to not give our children an example of following your heart and chasing after your dreams. It is too short to live in the fear of what may or may not occur.
Why is living our lives as an expressive extension of who we are at our core so important?
At the end of this physical life, when we start the next leg of our journey, the only thing that will remain is the energy that we have expressed during this lifetime and that is what we will recognize and be recognized by. That is what we will gravitate to and also attract. So… knowing what I know about what happens after this physical life is over I can no longer live this physical life in a way where I am not expressing who I am and what I love at my core 100% of the time.
I choose to be, to do, and to have that which is an expressive extension of who I am at my core and to live a life I desire.